Tips for your first date: what to do and what definitely not to do **Preparation is key** • Choose a neutral location where you both feel comfortable • Plan an activity that allows for conversation • Make sure you know how to get there and arrive on time • Take care of your appearance, but stay true to yourself **During the date** • Be genuinely interested in the other person • Ask open questions and listen actively • Put your phone away and give your full attention • Be yourself and don't pretend to be someone you're not • Share personal stories, but don't overshare immediately **What you should definitely avoid** • Talking only about yourself the entire time • Bringing up your ex-partner or past relationships • Being constantly on your phone • Ordering the most expensive item if the other person is paying • Drinking too much alcohol • Being late without letting them know **Good conversation topics** • Hobbies and interests • Travel experiences • Movies, books, or music • Work or studies (but don't make it the main topic) • Future plans and dreams **Keep it light and fun** Remember that a first date is about getting to know each other better. Don't put too much pressure on yourself or the situation. The most important thing is that you both have a good time and feel comfortable with each other.

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So, you've found a great match and you're about to go on a date? Exciting! But hey, before you conquer those nerves, there are a few things you need to know. Let's take a look at what you absolutely Should and Should Not do during your first date. Spoiler alert: not every date has to start with a high-stakes quiz competition or discussing the number of pets you want!

🙅‍♂️ What you definitely shouldn't do

If you want to survive your first date without sabotaging your social life, here are a few pitfalls to avoid:

• 🗣️ Talking about your ex: Nobody wants to hear it. This isn't a therapy session! If you've previously said you've lost the love of your life, you might as well put a sign around your neck saying "I need to get over it."
• 😬 Looking at your phone too much: If you spend more time on your phone than with your date, it's no wonder you're 'unreachably' single. Put that phone on silent and enjoy the person across from you!
• 🍔 Extreme food choices for you: It's not fun to watch your date struggle with a double cheeseburger while you eat a salad to make an impression. And yes, that makes absolutely no sense if you try to order a 'low-key' drink in between!
• 🕵️‍♀️ Asking too many questions: It's not a job interview. Don't ask "Where do you see yourself in five years?" and act like you're in a movie role. A casual "What are your hobbies?" works better, trust me.

✅ What you definitely should do

Now that we've handled the negative stuff, let's look at some winning strategies for your date:

• 🎉 Choose a relaxed location: Go for a nice, informal setting. A café or a park for a walk often works better. Definitely put that high-end sushi place in your back pocket; it's a first date, not a gastronomic adventure!
• 📖 Listen: Show genuine interest in what your date says. The first hour often consists of getting to know each other, so do your best! Don't act like you're hearing the world's biggest secret; show that you're enjoying it!
• 🤗 A bit of humor: A joke here and there can ease the tension. Don't forget that laughter is a great way to connect. A light comment like "I hope you don't follow a vegan diet, otherwise I'm afraid I can't cook" can be a nice ice breaker.
• 🍹 Enjoy the moments: Try to set aside the pressure of the future. Enjoy the date as it comes! And if you realize you both have the same obsession with the weather, then you have something to build on!

🎈 Original date ideas

Want some inspiration for future dates? Then check out these 7 original dating ideas! From painting classes to cooking workshops; there's surely something that appeals to both of you without wanting to hide behind that awkward 'what should I say' moment.

💬 The power of a dating coach

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Dating is an adventure, full of excitement and a bit of chaos. But with the right tips in the back of your mind, you can enjoy every step. So, put on your best outfit, switch off those nerves and don't forget to laugh. Who knows, maybe you'll find the love of your life and a great grillmaster all in one!

Remember that every date is a chance to learn and grow. If it doesn't click, see it as a learning moment that helps you with your next adventure. Go for it and make beautiful memories – the world of love is waiting for you!